Not that anyone so far has really asked me what is meant by "Reality is Optional", but it just occurred to me after a recent phone conversation I just had, that at this time in my life as I have reached middle age but not feeling a huge difference physically (until I look in the mirror of course), trying to get my 17yr old son off to college next year, caring for my 16 yr old son who is disabled and enjoys life as only he can, tolerating two small dogs, feeding a few fish that insist on living, and trying to get my BS in Public Health. There is just not enough time in the day, so tell me please, how is that there are so many people it seems more now than ever, that just can't or won't handle their own responsiblities, but decide that they will not accept or acknowledge simple truths and move on, just put one foot in front of the other and move on.
As an only child with not a lot of interaction from my own mother, I would say this allowed me to grow up very independently and self sufficient sometimes to a fault. I always tell the story about tearing down my kitchen and doing my own remodel, eventually using a freelance carpenter who told my older son to "please take the power tools away from your mother!"
But anyway, I am a strong advocate for living and dealing with realities as much as possible and facing your weaknesses. Maybe its my younger son who is very cognitive and quite social but can't speak and although learning to use a high tech electronic device, we just simply communicate with him through giving him choices and his reading his facial expressions.
His smiles and laughter are so genuine.
His tears are real and keep flowing until they just stop,
His worries for family and classmates generate vocal sounds and raised eyebrows,
Therefore, I realized when he was quite young that he controls his environment through the simple realities and limitations of his world nothing more, nothing less, He truly doesn't lie or try to manipulate or use others for more than he absolutely needs (except for extra smiles when he and his brother would like more video games).
I know for many, life is incredibly difficult, espescially after unforseen events, but for others that just decide "I just don't wanna", no rhyme or reason I just don't, and I'll make life more challenging for others "just because".
Hence, my choice to name this site because on most days you have options, and just remember many others don't.
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